The summer holidays are approaching and I know how busy you are. There’s work to finish, childcare to organise, paddling pools to buy, packing lists to write, school uniform to order and have you remembered to source a goldfish-sitter? Not yet? Well, I thought I’d help you save time on your holiday prep and bring together in one place all the positive parenting strategies you’ll need for enjoying some family time these holidays. Here is your essential positive parenting toolkit for surviving the summer holidays. You’re welcome!
- The first thing you’ll need to do is to set some ground rules. Make it clear what’s acceptable and what isn’t so everyone knows where they stand and the kids have the best chance of getting things right. You could even get the kids to make a Holiday Rules poster and decorate it. Whether it’s what time they need to get up, how many ice-creams they can eat, how many hours of tech time is allowed or who’s loading the dishwasher each day, if you can, make it explicit. If the rules are agreed in advance, there’s likely to be less conflict.
- Maximise the chances of the rules sticking by offering some motivating rewards. I’m not talking about bribes to avoid bad behaviour but positive rewards for sticking to the rules (and if you’re not sure which is which, read What’s the difference between rewards and bribes?!)
- If you are hoping for some quality time with your teenager, there is definitely a Right and Wrong Way to Plan Fun Family Time with a Teenager. Find a time to sit down at the beginning of the holidays and brainstorm some activities a reluctant teen might be prepared to at least tag along to. If you set a budget and give them full rein (within a few key constraints!) you will up your chances of a willing teenage participant.
- If your holiday plans involve long journeys, you’ll be needing these tips for Staying sane on long journeys with young children. And, if you’re not going away and you have older children, you’ll want these ideas on tearing teens off tech in the school holidays! If you have more than one child, you’ll also need to…
- Get tooled up to deal with bickering. When kids have too much time on their hands (or when they don’t or, indeed, in all other circumstances too), a bit of bickering is inevitable. But it will drive you mad after too many days of it. So, head sibling conflict off at the pass with my Sibling Conflict Survival Guide.
- And if the disruption of the holidays sends your little (or big) one’s behaviour off the edge, or you find yourself frazzled by the sheer joy of their company, I suggest you take a look at How not to shout to help you keep your cool!
So, bookmark this post and you will be fully equipped with all the essential parenting strategies you’ll need these holidays in one handy positive parenting toolkit! (But, just in case you need a bit more inspiration, I’ll also be sharing more school holiday survival tips on Twitter and Facebook throughout the holidays!). Enjoy!
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©Anita Cleare 2019